The prayer I wrote for my name changing ceremony. Embracing my spiritual name…

FullSizeRender-1 Beautiful Creator, God/Goddess, Mother/Father, Universe, All That Is,

We thank you.

In these new times that we are traversing on this planet earth, help us to be brave.

Help us to remember that each day is a gift and tomorrow is not guaranteed.

Help us to live from our heart, in harmony with our inner truth and our divine calling, in service to humanity and the world.

Help us to remember that we are creative sparks of Spirit and with every thought and feeling we emit, we are creating our world. Help us to see life’s challenges as opportunities to stay focused on creating heaven on earth.

Help us to forgive everyone for everything, including and especially ourselves.

Help us to eradicate fear and doubt from our minds and hearts, so that we can live fully without hesitation, in our light and in our glory, bathing the world with our greatest joy,

Help us to remember that if we want peace and harmony in the world that we must have in it our own hearts. Please help us heal ourselves, our ancestors and our relationships. Heal our families and our communities, and fill them with peace now and forever.

Help us to love each other better, because In the end, love is truly all that matters. Help us to see the best in everyone and honor each person’s individual path.

Help us to remember that each moment is a chance to start again, that we are free, free to create the life we imagine, free to be ourselves, free to just be.

Help us to surrender each day to your guidance, knowing that we are never alone and you are just a thought away.

Help us to remember that where there is light, darkness cannot exist and the light is who we are. Help us to see ourselves as the miracle we are.

Help us to remember that at our deepest level of being, we are love, we are light, we are One.

Help us to live in the Oneness as many moments as we can, so our light will ignite the fire in other souls.

Help us to see beauty everyday all around us, in us and in others, even when it’s hard.

Thank you for blessing us with true divine abundance in all ways, thank you for this beautiful planet earth, for our health, our friends, our families, for this opportunity to be alive in this unique and momentous new time here on earth. Amen.

May the blessings of All That You Are be reflected back upon you, and may your magnificent heart radiate them out into the world for all to receive.

Love, SoulFire

Helpful realistic prayer

IMG_4737 2Heavenly Father, help us remember that the jerk who cut us off in traffic last night is a single mother who worked nine hours that day and is rushing home to cook dinner, help with homework, do the laundry and spend a few precious moments with her children.

Help us to remember that the pierced, tattooed, disinterested young man who can’t make change correctly is a worried 19-year old college student, balancing his apprehension over final exams with his fear of not getting his student loans for next semester.

Remind us, Lord, that the scary looking bum, begging for money in the same spot every day (who really ought to get a job!) is a slave to addictions that we can only imagine in our worst nightmares.

Help us to remember that the old couple walking annoyingly slow through the store aisles and blocking our shopping progress are savoring this moment, knowing that, based on the biopsy report she got back last week, this will be the last year that they go shopping together.

Heavenly Father, remind us each day that, of all the gifts you give us, the greatest gift is love. It is not enough to share that love with those we hold dear. Open our hearts not to just those who are close to us, but to all humanity. Let us be slow to judge and quick to forgive, show patience, empathy and love.

BE the light.

Quote-RumiBeing an empath is not easy. In my line of work, it is a double edged sword. It helps me to connect to my clients, understand their needs and intuitively guide them to their highest healing. Yet as a human being in the world we live in today it can be brutal to the heart. For those astrologically inclined, I’m a Pisces sun and Scorpio moon. Whenever I tell people who understand the science of astrology they usually cringe. I am beyond sensitive, and I go deep, deeper than most. Not only do I go there, that’s where I live. Sometimes I think I can feel the suffering of the hearts of the entire world. Rare is a day when I am not crying, and don’t get me wrong they are tears of joy as well, as I am witness to the amazing people in this world that continue to do kind and selfless acts. I have learned however, I cannot under any circumstances watch the news, unless I want to feel complete fear, helplessness and despair and become a blubbering mess. And what’s the point of that. Is that helping the world? No, it is not. Being compassionate and having empathy is a lot different than having sympathy. Sympathy keeps you down in the pit of despair with the negativity. Empathy raises people up. By feeling sorry for others’ suffering does help them at all. I am sure there are many people reading this now that can relate to me. If you have a heart and haven’t been fully desensitized yet, you can’t help but feeling bad and getting caught up in the atrocities and needless suffering that exists in the world. What does help then? What can we do? Well, for starters try not to dwell in it and talk about it. I know that’s hard but just as gossiping is not a virtuous trait, gossiping about the darkness in the world just keeps it alive. Everything is energy. What you focus on you create. We are powerful creative creators and we have created this mess of a world we live in. It is our job as responsible spiritual/human beings to uncreate the darkness and bring back the light. When you enter a dark room, the only thing you need to do is flip the switch and the light comes on. That is what is happening now on the planet. Individuals, communities and societies are waking up, they are switching on their light. We are waking up the the truth of who we are and how to really make a lasting change. That change has to happen with a shift in consciousness, or it won’t last. To quote big Albert, “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.” Isn’t it about time we get that? As individuals and as a whole? It is said that when you are uplifted you uplift 30,000 people. It’s time we started uplifting each other. Miracles are possible and as a matter of fact they become a way of life when we finally wake up to who we really are and the power we truly have; and we use that power for the good of all. My task as I see it is to be as peaceful, kind and true to myself, and be the light for others. I must eradicate anger, negativity, judgment, criticism, and self betrayal from my mind and my heart… for it is a form of violence. And then I try to influence and heal others in my little corner of the Universe as best as I can. In other words: heal yourself, heal the world. From that space we can then unite our intentions, prayers and energy by sending waves of love and light to areas of the world that need it. Take Mexico for example. It was suppose to be the worst storm/hurricane that they have ever seen. But not one person was killed! That was a miracle, truly. How did that happen? People from all over the world prayed, sent their intentions and energy to Mexico. Can we make a difference? Yes we can.

“If there is peace in the heart, there will be beauty in the character If there is beauty in the character, there will be harmony in the home. If there is harmony in the home, there will be order in the nation. When there is order in the nation, there will be peace in the world.” -Lao Tse

WE ARE ONE. ACT LIKE IT.

My father’s passing. Love never dies.

75251be60a7e2027685393fb51006387It was Saturday, September 5th, and I was on my way to fire island to work for the day. I opened my email in the morning and deleted the usual gazillion emails from my Dad, most of them silly forwards. My Dad had a stroke around 14 years ago and never fully recovered; the computer and technology were his best friend. There was one however that caught my attention: “And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.”  (Revelation 21:4) I felt so sad after reading this. One, because I had been going through a really rough time in my life recently and still struggling to heal my heart and two, because this was the scripture I put on my daughters’ fathers’ mass card when he died. All day long, even in my most favorite place in the world, I couldn’t shake this sadness. I had a new client that day with back pain and her 8 year old daughter came over to me while I was working on her Mom, put her arms around me and told me she loved me. I had to fight back the tears. Then as we were finishing up with the tab, her angel daughter kept hugging me and wouldn’t let me go. Looking back now I realize she knew I was sad and was going to need those hugs. As I was riding my bike back to my car I passed by a church with a mass happening. Funny I never knew there was a church on that street. I stopped my bike and sat outside on the front steps and listened to the mass. I thought about my father and couldn’t help feeling this terrible ache in my heart. As I was driving home across the Robert Moses Bridge I prayed to my angels to send me a friend, that I didn’t want to be alone that night. When I got home I got a text from my brother, “Dad just died.” I knew it. My Dad knew it too, he knew he was going to die that day. It was bitter sweet for me because I was never close to my father. He adopted me when I was 4 years old, and even though I lived with him when my parents got divorced, we were never close or had a good relationship. I felt sad because I wasn’t there for him and I cried because I lost a father that I never really had, and that was like a double loss. At that moment I began talking to my Dad like he was right next to me. It felt like he was with me. I said to him, “Dad if you are here can you be a father to me now and be there for me? I need help. I am struggling and I am hurt, please help me.”  I was walking my dog, Karma, as the tears were flowing down my face and within a few minutes I felt a relief within.  I felt the sadness and pain dissolve, and I could breathe deeply again. I felt light.  It was amazing. The angels had already had a call in to my friend Lisa…and she came over with sushi and chocolate and stayed till midnight talking with me. I am so blessed to have such wonderful friends in my life. I don’t know what I’d do without them. Since my Dad has passed I have had a better relationship with him now than I had when he was alive. He couldn’t help me when he was stuck in his disabled human body in Florida, but now that he is free, in his spiritual essence, he is with me and helping me everyday to heal my heart. My Dad can be with me now just as quickly as I think about him. I find peanut shells, (his nickname for me was peanut or peanup), and I see his initials FJZ on license plates all the time. In India when someone leaves their body they say they are now in their “big form.” Meaning they are now everywhere, connected to us all. It makes sense. Our true essence is soul, light, infinite consciousness. When we are in a limited human body there is only so much we can do. When we are free of the body, or the “suit” we are truly free and are everywhere.  I am amazed at this miracle and grateful to have my Dad back in my life now when I need him the most. I pray that if you have lost a loved one that you know that they are still with you in spirit and always will be. Know that they are truly free and at peace. They are home with God, surrounded by unconditional love and acceptance, and they are with you. Love is the only thing in this Universe that doesn’t die. May you be surrounded by infinite love and unconditional acceptance and peace. God bless us all.

Aging gracefully

IMG_3796Whenever I see a flower and look carefully at it, noticing the brilliance and depth of the color deep in the center I think of a woman’s beauty. The superficial trappings of the world we live in, especially in our culture with all the beauty magazines everywhere, the “reality” shows, the celebrities and the media…keeps us imprisoned in how we are “suppose to look” that is considered beautiful.  It is dangerous to our self-esteem. It takes away from our uniqueness and worthiness if we are not careful. I mean how could we ever keep up with all the actresses, celebrities, artists and pop stars looking so called “perfect”? It makes us seem like we have a lot of work to do just to be beautiful never the less maintain that ageless beauty.  We live in a culture that frowns upon wrinkles, cellulite, fat, thin lips, gray hair, varicose veins, small breasts, droopy breasts, small tushies and large labia. Yes, I said labia. Labia surgery is the latest thing now so you can make your vagina look like a prepubescent teen. It’s crazy how our culture and the world we live in supports the young and doesn’t give props and respect to the older or elderly. In other cultures, such as Native American Indian or even in some countries in Europe, being an elder is a wonderful thing, You are looked up to for your wisdom and compassion. It’s a compliment if someone says, “Hi, you are looking old today.” Can you imagine if someone said that to you? We would all be offended, myself included. I have already calmed my anxiety about aging, knowing I can get “work” done if need be in the future. It’s terrible. How do we age gracefully then? One thing is for starters, as women we must support each other. In the highest truth, we are all sisters and we need to stop judging and being competitive and petty with one another. We are all beautiful in our own special ways, and we need to start or continue to lift each other up.  And if you are with a man or partner that doesn’t acknowledge your beauty, your real inner true beauty, then find someone else who does. A woman’s beauty comes from within. It is her strength, her compassion, her kindness, her nurturing, her love and her heart that is her true beauty. Defining yourself or even attaching too much attention to the body or the “shell” is a set up for disappointment and feeling bad about yourself. The “shell” or the body inevitably will change and grow older. There is no stopping that.  Be the love, the light and the grace that you already are within your heart and then radiate your beauty and your light out into the world. Be you, be beautiful you! gibran quote

Walking in Faith

slideshow09It’s hard to have faith when everything is uncertain. But that is the way faith is grown. You don’t need faith when everything is fine, going your way. That’s not when faith is needed. Faith is something we might not be able to see or feel or smell or touch, but somewhere in the depths of our being it calls to us. It gets you off the floor when all you want to do is lie down and die, it get you to that yoga class that you know somehow you need, it pushes you gently to keep going, no matter how hard life gets, no matter what your circumstances may be, it is the voice that says, don’t give up, you can do it, help is on the way, just please don’t give up. I know your tired and I know your scared but walk, walk with me, take one day at a time, one step at a time, one breath at a time, it will be ok. Faith is what puts the smile back on your face and in your heart. Faith bring out the best in us, our human spirit of perseverance and steadfast strength. Faith is knowing that no matter how bad things may seem or how awful or depressed you may feel, spring still comes, flowers still bloom, babies are still born and people still fall in love and marry.  Faith is knowing the sun will still come up in the morning and angels will lie down with you when you rest at night.

Faith brings the right people into your life at the right time, because God brings you nothing but angels.

 

My Everyday Heroes

IMG_1040webThe people that inspire me are the ones that most people wouldn’t look to for inspiration.  They haven’t done anything to merit the Noble Peace Prize, haven’t dedicated their life to saving the hungry and oppressed, don’t have a kajillion followers on Facebook, or super powers…they are just ordinary people but they have suffered extra ordinary circumstances in their lives.  While all of us, having lived a while on this earth will end up knowing the heartbreak and sadness of loss, there are people that have really known it…all too well.  I know people who have lost their spouses suddenly, their true love, their forever companions and the worst loss I believe is the loss of a child.  I look at these people in my life and wonder how they do it…how they continue on?  It amazes me that they still get up everyday and go to work with a smile on their face and… continue to be kind and helpful to others.  Having suffered my own losses; I know sometimes just getting up in the morning and getting out the door with a smile on your face is a huge task.  The holidays can be a tough time for people that have lost loved ones.  I am dedicating this blog, my thoughts and my prayers to all of you…know that your silent suffering and heartache is not in vain; know that you are not alone and your light, although dim, is still shining.  Thank you for being a true warrior and inspiration.

Compassionate heart.

There are times when my heart feels so sad. I am a very sensitive soul and I feel things so deeply. I’ve been told I have a lot of extra “antennas”, more than most people.  This is a double edged sword for me.  It’s good for my clients and students that I work with, but it’s hard for me when I’m having conflict in relationship not to overreact and get so emotional. When I feel stuck in this emotion of sadness that I just can’t seem to shake, my way out is to pray to God as such:  ”Use my sadness God. Help me to not close down my heart and shut off from the world but help me to stay open in the pain and sorrow. Use my broken heart to help heal the heart of another. Thank you. Amen.”  When we are suffering that’s when we are the most understanding and compassionate to others pain and suffering. That is what I have learned. “Use my pain to help heal another” is a very powerful mantra. What this mantra or prayer is actually doing is giving you the space to breathe again and to shift into a higher awareness that we are all connected and we are not alone in our sorrow.  It brings you back to your innate compassionate inner wisdom. Sometimes that is all you need for your heart to be happy again. Try it next time you are struggling and see what happens.  I pray for your happiness and that all beings everywhere be free.
Namaste. Love, SoulFire

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Gifts from my yoga students

photoOne of my yoga classes that I have been teaching for the last 4 years at a corporation has had its last hurrah. Although this was a pretty unconventional yoga class, done in the cafeteria, on a cold, hard, dirty floor with ants and loud warning bells going off in the middle of class, this was one of my favorite classes.  It wasn’t because of the stellar environment but because of the students that came every week. They truly loved and appreciated me and the yoga I was sharing with them. It changed their life.  Although I was bringing to them the gift of yoga and inner peace, week after week they showed me what true caring was.  They knew I had been going through some rough times and they were the ones ironically that were there for me.

As I was going for a run the other day, I was thinking about this particular class and how I was going to miss them.  This then brought me to another thought. I began to reminisce over the last 13 years I have been teaching yoga and how my yoga teacher, Mokshapriya, was right when she said to me when I was going through a really rough time in my life and feeling alone, “You are not alone, you have your yoga students.” At the time I really couldn’t understand that truth. It didn’t sink in, I just kind of blew it off. During my run the other day though, that truth came barreling into my mind, then into my heart and I literally had to stop running I was crying so hard.  I couldn’t believe it. What an epiphany for me. Yes, Mokshapriya, you were right. I get it now.  All these years I thought I was giving so much of myself through my yoga classes and private sessions but in fact it was and is my yoga students that give so much back to me.

I remember so many times I would be crying in my car driving to go teach a class, pull up to the studio, wiping the tears off my face and saying to myself, “Ok this is not about you right now, get it together. You have no idea who’s in that class, what they are going through and how much they might need yoga right now. Put your pain and heartache to the side, smile and show them your love.” Those were some of my most powerful classes.  Most of you don’t know this, but while you we’re in shivasana, I would sit there with you and silently cry. I went through some pretty tough times in the last decade, as many of you know.  Teaching yoga was my saving grace. My students were my saving grace. As I look back on all the emails, notes, talks, hugs, words of encouragement that have been given so freely and abundantly to me over the last 13 years I am overwhelmed with such gratitude and love that I can’t help but shed tears as I write this letter to you.
So I want to say thank you. It seems that these two words are not enough for what you have given to me, but I want you to know that all of these moments and all of your support has helped shape me and has helped me to grow and to heal. You have been an important part of my journey and I am so grateful for your presence in my life. To all of my yoga teacher friends, you too have helped me to heal and grow. Thank you for holding my hand, for holding my heart and for loving me.
I love you,
SoulFire (Stefania)

Where the name SoulFire came from

black and white angelIt was brought to my attention recently that my name change from Stefania to SoulFire was not understood correctly.  The transformation that I went through in 2013 was a huge shift for me in so many ways.  There were a lot of endings and a lot of new beginnings. The details are too extensive for this blog but I will be including it in my book.  With regard to the name SoulFire, that is the name that my Guardian Angels call me. I also have a symbol, which is a vertical line with wispy lines going through it that represent the fire. My new SoulFire logo has the symbol in the middle.  If you look closely you can see it. All of this is explained on my new website http://ignitethesoulfire.com/ under the “about” tab. It is tradition in India that you receive a spiritual name from your teacher or guru,  much like in Catholicism and other religions. I never had a guru but I do have four fabulous Guardian angels (Carmen, Victor, Archangel Raphael and Archangel Michael) and one spirit guide (Omi my twin brother from our lifetime in Tibet); otherwise known as the Fab Five! To me they are my family. I love them so much and feel their love and support around me all the time. I will admit I was a little hesitant about “coming out” with my new name and telling people where it came from. I know there are some people that will think I am coo coo, but it’s the truth and I am not afraid to share it.  Angels are just as real as you and I.  I love my angelic name, SoulFire. It makes me so happy to hear people calling me by my new name. It makes my heart sing!  For those of you who are interested in knowing who your Guardian angels are and actually be able to communicate with them, reach out to Dana Livoti. It is through her gift of communication with the angels that changed my life. (631) 245-5705 angelintuition@yahoo.com